Let’s say you wanted to buy a - friend’s motorcycle. He's asking two thousand dollars for it. You want this particular - motorcycle really bad so you go to - him and say “Oh, please, please, please sell me your bike! It’s - perfect and I want it so bad!”
That would be a very stupid thing - to do. The price would skyrocket if he knew - you wanted the bike so desperately. You’ve just destroyed your bargaining - position. You’ve thrown away your leverage.
Here’s some good old horse - trading advice. No matter how badly you want something – never admit it. Let’s stay with the example above. The best approach would - be to go to your friend and say “I hear you might - want to sell your bike. I can’t be sure but I might be interested in it – how much are you asking for it?”
You appear to be only slightly - interested (just interested enough to ask about it). Now it’s up to him to make the price - attractive and talk you into the sale.
I once wished to buy a certain model of an old Leica camera. I searched for several years with nothing to show for it. Then a friend gave me the number of a man - who said he had the exact model I was looking for. I quickly grabbed my phone and made an - appointment to see it.
When I arrived I was stunned by the - camera’s condition. It was over 60 years old but - this particular specimen looked as though it just came off the - manufacturing line! It looked positively new. My mouth watered. I wanted this camera with all my - heart and soul and was determined to have it at - almost any price. But I remembered to stay calm and avoid showing - too much interest.
I calmly looked at it as my mind reeled with desire but I kept a mask of indifference on - my face. I knew the thing was worth every penny of two grand and was gladly - willing to write a check right there on the spot.
But my stern “poker face” was so - good he didn’t pick up on my enthusiasm. As I spoke calmly - my stomach was churning from the stress. I didn’t know how long I could - keep up this charade. We finally settled on a price of only $450. The check was - written and I headed for the door. When I got into my car - and down the block a ways I let out a shriek of delight!
Hopefully - my little camera story has taught you a valuable lesson. Keep cool and project an - air of mild enthusiasm and what ever you do don’t show just how really eager you - are to have this woman’s affections. If you get too overeager, you’ll lose her for - sure. She’ll quickly become bored and place you into the - trash bin with all those other too-eager losers.
The same rules apply to love. No matter how much your new lady turns you on – you should never admit it. Never, ever admit that you need her (That would be a HUGE mistake!). You are - somewhat interested (just interested enough to keep dating her).
Overeager men can quickly become - a woman’s doormat - if you show too much interest. If you are always near - your phone where she can contact you – she’ll think less of you. If you - shower her with expensive gifts and compliments – you’re well on your way to - becoming her newest ex-boyfriend.
Don’t be too available. You are unavailable - for days at a time due to “work” but you don’t give her any more - info than that. If she suggests a weekend date after Wednesday night, say- you’re busy. If she asks if you can rearrange your schedule – say “sorry but I can’t do that.”
When she begins to relax and get - comfortable with your new relationship – pull back from her and show her - that she can’t get too comfortable. Act indifferently. You want to give her the - impression that you are always fully prepared to walk away from your relationship.
In short, play a little hard to get. Not really hard to get, just somewhat hard to get. This will stir her - desire and make her more eager to see and please you. Women know this stuff works and have been using it on men for ages. Now it’s our turn.
You might even want to consider - canceling a date now and then. It can be a very effective tactic when used - sparingly. Or you might be called away while on a date. At all costs, don’t be too nice a guy.
If you want to learn the hard-core details on how to play the “hard to get” game to the max - go buy a copy of the - bestseller “The Rules”. It provides a detailed plan women use to play hard to get – very hard to get. Why shouldn’t we use the - same ruthless tactics?